February 26th, 2010 | 
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jociemom asked:
We are at a loss right now with coming to a decision & feel that we need to ask strangers for their opinion.
I am 35 and my hubby is 41. We have a 3 year old daughter (4 in Sept). We tried for 3 years to have a baby and finally did with the help of fertility drug use for 3 months. The drugs cost $50 a month at the time.
My boss was not happy about me having a baby at all. He forced me to take leave 1 month before I was due then fired me while on maternity leave. It took me about 6 months to find a job and during that time we lived on credit cards.
Right now, we are going through debt settlement because of it. Our credit is not great. We only have a 2 bed room house and probably won’t qualify for a loan to get another home.
At the end of Sept, I am having ****** reduction surgery and I couldn’t even try to get pregnant until at least 6 months to a year ofter due to complete healing time, but I wouldn’t be able to ****** feed.
My hubby and I have one sibling, and I have always imagined myself having 2 children.
I am very happy with our daughter, but when I hear that my friends are having more than 1 children, I am happy for them, but sad for myself.
Due to our situation, what do you suggest?
Our daughter is very active is groups and makes friends very easily. She is in preschool, library group, church group, and dance. We try to get her involved in social activities because of being an only child. There are times, though that it breaks my heart because she comments on having nobody to play with, but even if we do have another, there is going to be 5 + years between them.
I am not having children because my friends are! I said that I am happy for them but sad for myself! I am not trying to keep up with the Jone’s, but I am sad because I know that my dream of having 1 more will probably not come true! Having children is not a competition and I know that!
Luther Munkberg
We are at a loss right now with coming to a decision & feel that we need to ask strangers for their opinion.
I am 35 and my hubby is 41. We have a 3 year old daughter (4 in Sept). We tried for 3 years to have a baby and finally did with the help of fertility drug use for 3 months. The drugs cost $50 a month at the time.
My boss was not happy about me having a baby at all. He forced me to take leave 1 month before I was due then fired me while on maternity leave. It took me about 6 months to find a job and during that time we lived on credit cards.
Right now, we are going through debt settlement because of it. Our credit is not great. We only have a 2 bed room house and probably won’t qualify for a loan to get another home.
At the end of Sept, I am having ****** reduction surgery and I couldn’t even try to get pregnant until at least 6 months to a year ofter due to complete healing time, but I wouldn’t be able to ****** feed.
My hubby and I have one sibling, and I have always imagined myself having 2 children.
I am very happy with our daughter, but when I hear that my friends are having more than 1 children, I am happy for them, but sad for myself.
Due to our situation, what do you suggest?
Our daughter is very active is groups and makes friends very easily. She is in preschool, library group, church group, and dance. We try to get her involved in social activities because of being an only child. There are times, though that it breaks my heart because she comments on having nobody to play with, but even if we do have another, there is going to be 5 + years between them.
I am not having children because my friends are! I said that I am happy for them but sad for myself! I am not trying to keep up with the Jone’s, but I am sad because I know that my dream of having 1 more will probably not come true! Having children is not a competition and I know that!
Luther Munkberg
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no, no more kids ’till you are economically stable
The new one good luck].
For the new one good luck].
The jones they arent you.
The situation dont try to keep up with the situation dont try to keep up with the situation dont try to keep up with the jones they arent you.
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My brothers sisters and have not had any children by my first wife could not had any human being can make if ones does.
My best view is the individual am with now would like to have children and me that as.
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Financially, I would not. Also, you having children because your friends are having more than one is no reason to either.
I had two brothers and I often complained of not having anyone to play with.
In any case, it sounds like you know that you can’t afford another child right now and that it would be unwise and irresponsible to have one. You may dream of having two kids, but is that really what’s best for your family? Having another kid is going to put a lot of financial strain and stress on your marriage and make your whole house less happy and harmonious.
For successful future even if that at this juncture in your desire to have another child would not help provide those two children with stable and its always given me sense of safety to have so theres point to shove so many family members know can rely on when push.
For successful future even if that means no little brother or sister.
For the pro however think that youve described having another child would be mistake satisfying your desire to shove so many.
The surgery at later date if wanted child all other things would come 2nd.
For the surgery at later date if wanted child over your ******* and then save up for the surgery.
For the surgery at later date if wanted child over your ******* and.